[Rikaku]

So, there's this girl (you've probably heard this a million times) who I've been after for almost 2 years now. Yes, 2 years. I was planning on finally doing something for Valentine's Day, but then I found out some people were trying to set someone else up with her. I have no idea how she and the other guy feel about each other (from what I know, they're just friends) but here's the problem: Me and this other guy have been friends since 6th grade. So, now I feel like I'm in a race against both time and the world, and I know that no matter what happens, my life's gonna go straight to living hell. If it turns out he's into her, I'll either lose him as a friend or I'll have to see the two go out, which will probably make me more depressed than I ever have been. What should I do? ._.

And don't say "there are other fish in the sea," etc, because I want THIS one. Spare me the teen love crap as well, just help me out of this situation.

Dance Gavin Dance is right, uneasy hearts DO weigh the most. Help fast, please.

[Hecatonchire]

Rikaku, on 03 February 2010 - 06:04 PM, said:

So, there's this girl (you've probably heard this a million times) who I've been after for almost 2 years now. Yes, 2 years. I was planning on finally doing something for Valentine's Day, but then I found out some people were trying to set someone else up with her. I have no idea how she and the other guy feel about each other (from what I know, they're just friends) but here's the problem: Me and this other guy have been friends since 6th grade. So, now I feel like I'm in a race against both time and the world, and I know that no matter what happens, my life's gonna go straight to living hell. If it turns out he's into her, I'll either lose him as a friend or I'll have to see the two go out, which will probably make me more depressed than I ever have been. What should I do? ._.

And don't say "there are other fish in the sea," etc, because I want THIS one. Spare me the teen love crap as well, just help me out of this situation.

Dance Gavin Dance is right, uneasy hearts DO weigh the most. Help fast, please.

What to do? If you want the girl, go after the girl. If you get the girl, it's not your fault, the girl chose you over him. If you don't get the girl, well, you probably did something wrong (but don't worry!). I'd love to offer you a ton of advice, but frankly, you've only got a couple weeks, which isn't nearly enough time.

What did you have planned, if I may know? Yes, it's very important. You're already stacked against odds. First impressions are almost everything, so you'll need to work extra hard to combat any preconceptions she may have. On that note, what is your current relationship with her? Are you two close, are you casual friends, or does she even acknowledge your existence? (No, not meaning to be condescending, just letting you know that every bit matters.)

Does she seem interested to you? (Highly subjective, but still relevant.)

I'm sure you've heard the classic phrase "Be yourself." Well, this is very sound advice, although lacking a certain modifier: Be your best self. Don't hide who you are, don't ACT, as that's almost a sure way to lose everything. But there's no reason to up and show every little blemish on your record.

I would also like to point out that you are almost certainly doomed to fail, and failure like this will likely mean losing her. Tragic, I know. You'd have more chance if you tried to learn to be what you want to be with women you don't care for as firmly. It's practice, to become more confident and capable, and then you can pursue her, but that will take a long-ass time, and I dunno if you have the patience for it.

Otherwise, good luck, and I'll do whatever I can to try to help.

[Dr. House]

The Love That Lasts The Longest is The Love Never Returned.

I have nothing positive to say on the subject.

[Felicia]

Awwwe shit, are you in a tough spot.

2 years? Sure as hell you should go for it. If I had a chance to be after a guy for 2 years, I wouldn't want to just stop because my friend's going for him. Tell me, has this friend been interested in her for as long as you have or long at all? And really, the way it will work out, either 1. you're with her, your friend gets pissed and isn't your friend anymore 2. he's with her, you're pissed and not friends with him 3. she goes for neither of you and you're still friends or get pissed at each other for going for her.

You have to choose one person or the other. You're saying she's the fish for you, so I think your choice is made.

[Rikaku]

I've been friends with her for about half the time I've been after her. I was planning on starting out with a couple anonymous notes and dropping a few hints bit by bit, but I have no idea how this'll turn out. I asked one of her friends to try to find out how she feels about each of us, otherwise I have no real clue how she feels about me. She is usually rather nice to me, though.

[Felicia]

I, personally, say go for it, if you're ok with this possibly hurting your other friend.

[Rikaku]

Well, asking her out in time for Valentine's Day just won't happen (chickened out, plus a long weekend including tomorrow and monday in which I won't see her), but it's not like it's the end of the world; I don't think my friend's planning on making a move. How do I know this? Awkward talk in which he told me they were just friends. I feel like someone was about to shoot me and just decided to spare my life. I guess it couldn't get much worse from here... though I should make a move ASAP. Thanks for your help everyone.

[Rikaku]

Delete this random and pointless accidental double post, please.

This post has been edited by Rikaku: 11 February 2010 - 11:30 PM

[Felicia]

Yes make a move ASAP, omg I have no school tomorrow and Monday too, and no worries, I'll be spending my Valentine's Day in court. Ok, no, I'll be spending my Valentine's Day on a tennis court Single. And alone. With my best friend and her (new) boyfriend nearby loving each other.

Idk if you can tell, but I really don't like Valentine's Day.

But hey, at least you got all this awkwardness out of the way

[Rikaku]

Yeah, I know how you feel. But hey, at least there's Black Day.

[Hecatonchire]

Valentines day got you down? Celebrate on the 14th, Oregon's BIRTHDAY! Yes, Oregon was actually founded on February 14th.